Love and like are two different things, so sometimes although we may be upset at someone, it doesn't take away from the love. Sadly, us humans have a hard time of separating the two.
That's why its so important to make sure that while we are going through periods of dislike, we refrain from making our partner feel unloved. Petty situations can be forgotten, but words make an imprint that can last a lifetime.
Remember in whatever you say, that whatever you say, can affect how someone feels about themselves or toward you. Being nefarious gets us very little in the way of settling an argument, it can almost always guarantee failure.
While petty arguments can be worked out, residual feelings left over from hurtful words can prolong resentment.
Ways to work it out:
Avoid saying the word you in an accusatory way:
Dont say words like: Amir, you are so arrogant. You never listen to me.
Instead, tell your partner how YOU feel.
Example: Amir, when we argue, I feel like I am not being heard. I feel like my ideas are not important.
Try it next time, and see what happens.
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